After I posted about the Pivot Vac that my daughter uses as part of her daily chores I receive several emails asking me about how I do my kids chores and what exactly they do to earn their money for the week.
There are several reasons why it is important for kids to do chores around the house. First, it helps to teach them responsibility and the value of hard work. By completing tasks and contributing to the household, kids can learn that their actions have an impact on others and that they are an important member of the family.
Doing chores can help kids to develop independence and self-sufficiency. It can also foster a sense of accomplishment and pride in their contributions to the family. Kids can learn important life skills such as organization, time management, and problem-solving. These skills will be useful to them in all areas of their lives, including school, work, and relationships.
Now every family does things a little different so you have to adapt to your lifestyle and personality. But this is how we do it.
I think we are pretty strict with our kids. Wait! Strict sounds like a bad word – maybe consistent is better. We strive very hard to make sure that our kids know our expectations. Therefore I don’t count to 1-2-3, don’t give them numerous chances, don’t constantly repeat myself, etc.
When I want my kids to do something I look them in the eye and ask them. For example, (looking into Kayla’s eyes) “Kayla it is time to clean up your toys, okay?”
And then while still looking into her eyes she knows I expect a response. Therefore I communicated what I would like to have done and she has acknowledged me. Therefore, if it isn’t done, she knows she is being disobedient.
The only thing we punish for in our home is disobedience. I say all that to say, for us, a chore chart isn’t necessary. My kids know their daily jobs and I help remind them to get them done and help them keep track of time so they can do their jobs in the allotted time. However, for some, that visual reminder of moving their jobs to the “done” section of a chore chart is really helpful. I think you need to know you kids and your personality and see if that fits for you.
So what do my kids do for their jobs?
Well there are some family contributions that my kids do simply because they live in the house and are a part of this family unit. For example, my kids have to clean their rooms and the playroom each day.
That is not something I pay them for. They also have to turn all of their clothes right side out and bring it to the laundry room each week. I then wash it and fold them and put them back in the basket.
They are then expected to put the clothes away. However, we do pay for extra jobs. Each of my kids have chores where they earn money each week and we pay them half their age.
Kayla – age 5 earns $2.50 a week
1. Putting all shoes away at the end of the night. We are always in such a rush around here that we put our shoes right by the door and kick them on and off as we come and go. At the end of the night she puts them all back into our cubbies in our mudroom.
2. Vacuuming the kitchen floor. With the Pivot Vac, she zips around and vacuums after dinner every night.
3. Putting the pillows back on the couch. After pillow fights, lounging around watching TV, fort-making, etc., our pillows are a wreck. She is responsible for fluffing and making the pillows look nice each day.
4. Kayla sets the table for dinner. I get down all the plates and cups and set them on the counter and she fills all the water and puts everything on the table.
5. Kayla is responsible for helping mommy make salsa and muffins each week. We usually make a double batch on Sunday and, of course, make sure we do the salsa dance before we start 😉
Isaac – age 8 earns $4.00 a week
1. Empties the dishwasher each day. He hates this job the most and usually can rope Kayla into helping him. Since he can’t reach past the first shelf in our kitchen cupboards he will stack the rest on the counter and then Tim or I will put the rest away.
2. Folds all kitchen rags and puts them away. Each week I wash all our microfiber cloths and he neatly rolls them and puts them in the drawer.
3. Clears the table after all meals and puts all the dishes in the sink.
4. And his new job (since he turned 8 last week) is to help prepare one meal each week with mommy’s help. Kayla loves helping in the kitchen but Isaac –notsomuch. So this was a way that I can get him in the kitchen with me and teach him some basic skills.
Hopefully his wife will appreciate that one day.
How do you pay your kids?
On Sunday is payday. Tim handles that. Each of the kids receive their allowance and they get to give back to God. We have shared with them from the Bible what God expects them to give back.
Kayla is the generous one and usually gives $.50 each week. Isaac gives the 10% but then, oftentimes, will give some of his money when he sees a need like giving money to a local children’s hospital or helping to buy shoes for kids in Haiti, etc.
What if they don’t do all their chores?
My kids have never really said no they won’t do it. But if they don’t do it for some reason they lose $.50 per job not done. So 5 missed jobs in a week for Kayla is no money. We have only had them lose their money once each though. It hasn’t been an issue before.
What if they whine and complain?
I always try and sympathize with my kids first. I know chores aren’t fun. So I will say, “Buddy I know chores aren’t fun. Mommy doesn’t like washing dishes but I do it so that our family has clean dishes to eat off of.
I am so grateful for the part you play in helping our house run smoothly. If you need a minute by yourself to be able to have a good attitude while doing it, that is fine.
You can go up to your room and have that minute and when you are ready you can finish your job.” Since they hate being alone they usually change their attitude on the spot. But there are times, Kayla needs that minute and takes it.
The goal for chores isn’t just to get stuff done around the house, although that is a huge perk! It is to teach them responsibility and that they are an important part of our family where we all work together.
So this is how we do it and it isn’t always perfect. The kids complain and pout and mommy loses her temper at messes many times. But we strive for progress and not perfection in our house.
I would love love love…did I mention LOVE to hear how you do chores in your house.