My Blog Story Part 6

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I will be the first to admit that 2010 was very overwhelming. I worked my butt off doing projects, being a consistent blogger, and building relationships.   I wasn’t one of those bloggers who became ginormous overnight.   Although I wish I was, I felt like I had to work for each follower.

Unfortunately, it came at a cost.   My husband and I had about four tough conversations that year where he had to confront me about how much time I was spending online.   What was worse was that when I was spending time with my family I was not fully engaged because I was thinking through my next project, my next post, my latest tweet, etc.   Any possible free moment was spent working on my blog.   And I loved it.   I know there were definitely times that the kudos I got on my blog substituted for any I needed elsewhere, which is not the way God intended it to work!

The hard part for my husband was that I was spending an insane amount of time on my blog and making about $.22 an hour at the cost of our family.   The money I was making was also very sporadic. One month I would make $500, the next month I would make $50.   The time spent on my blog did not justify the hours I put into it.   However, in my mind I knew I was building a small business and most small businesses do not profit for the first 2 years, right?   But the struggle with my husband was this: “either be a small business and work, or be a stay-at-home mom.” I was trying to juggle both and I was failing miserably.

Now, let me say this…all along my husband has encouraged me and has tried to support me 100%.   He loves that I am creative and that I am doing what I love to do.   We, as a couple, just needed to figure out how to make it work within the context of our family.

Farrant Family Fall 2010 IMA_88

Finally in the Summer of 2010 I figured a few things out…namely got into a great ad network and some affiliate programs which started bringing in a good amount of income.  I was now receiving a decent part-time income.   So I decided to become a working mom.   In October we made the decision that I would work from 10:00 a.m.- 2:00 p.m. everyday. Best decision ever!   So that means my kids are gone during that time. I currently have them enrolled at a part-time pre-school program at our church. So now I know I have that uninterrupted time to focus on blogging.  Therefore, I don’t feel the need to work on it at night when I should be focused on my family. I also made the decision that I would not turn on my computer from 5:30 p.m. – 9:00 p.m. everyday.

Photo Credit :The Sydney Morning Herald

So I told you in a previous post that my mantra for 2010 was “together.”   Well my mantra for 2011 is “balance.”   I am continuing to work hard to balance all I do making sure my faith and my family far outweigh any time and effort I put into my blog.   But it is easier said than done. It is a constant struggle and work in progress.

Oh but I forgot the best part…the “together” piece of 2010 and who I linked arms with…

stay tuned.

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Comments

  1. This has been SO fun following your story! Kinda get a behind the scenes look at the "big time blogging world" :)
    Thanks again for sharing!

  2. Amanda @ Serenity Now says:

    W-O-W. This part really hit home for me. I bet I make less than $0.22 an hour. ;) It IS hard to balance growing your blog and fulfilling your duties at home. That's something I've been working on over the past few months. I don't get crazy if I can't return each comment left on my blog (though I still want to try!) and I can't link to more than 1 or 2 blog parties a week b/c I don't have time to sit and "visit" all day. But I feel better about getting my house straight and spending time with my girls!! That's most important.

    I love the way you share your story, Beckie. :)

  3. Mrs. Means says:

    I've been following your story and this one resonated with me. I VERY recently started a blog, and I am no where near a point where I am ready to try to make any money. But even so, my husband and I have already had to have a talk about my priorities. Hopefully I can keep things on an even keel.
    Thanks so much for your story!

  4. Anonymous says:

    I love your blog & read daily but have no clue what an RRS feed is ;)

  5. Patty Ann says:

    I feel that way sometimes. I don't make any money blogging, and sometimes I wish I could, but it is still pretty new to me. I have already had to set priorities. It is so hard!! My husband sometimes resents the time I spend blogging, so I have had to try and adjust the times when I blog. It is amazing to me how addicting this can be. I love your blog, and I love your story!! Thanks for sharing.

  6. Okay. I've read all the other parts of the story too. And have enjoyed them. But this conversation has already been had around here a couple times. And I just loved hearing that you've had it too. And some of your fixes. And I have to give you big props for making that work. I've found that saying no to the computer/blog is harder than saying no to treats and french fries for me. The diet was easier.

    Each day, I wake up SWEARING that I'll only be on for an hour. And then it turns into 4 or 5….or gasp…more.

    I'm gonna keep trying though. Thanks for the inspiration, Beckie.

  7. Lil Mama Stuart says:

    thanks for sharing your story and doing this series. my husband also complains of my computer time!

  8. I think perhaps I spend $22.00 an hour…that is all backwards! I was ust thinking today that I need to make the rule – no blogging from 4-9 and about getting my little one in another school so I could have 3 hours a day to write books and blog. Oh the choices! Thanks again for sharing…it makes me feel so much better.
    Holly

  9. laxsupermom says:

    Thanks so much for sharing your story! I haven't tried to monetize my blog, partly for the fear that it would take over my life – even more than it already has. My kids now ask if they can go ahead and eat dinner or if I have to take a picture first. I love that you've given it job parameters with time limits.

  10. I've really enjoyed reading these posts! I am trying to get my blog up and running and getting followers seems to be the hardest part. Thanks for sharing your story! If you have a chance to pop on over to my blog, I would love to hear any ideas or suggestions that you might have to improve it. You are awesome Becky! Thanks so much for encouraging and inspiring so many!

  11. I am really interested in hearing more of your story. I am struggling to find the right balance in my blogging as well. It's easy to spend an excessive amount of time doing this. I would love for this to become a paying job. I have been using Ad Sense, but so far I haven't even gotten up to the $100 mark where they actually send you a check! I clicked on the link in your post for "programs" and have no idea what that is. I'd love to find a way to make some money to make the hours make a little more sense. It's nice to hear many people are having the same issues.

  12. fionabakesandcrafts says:

    I've enjoyed this series, and I really appreciate your honesty – I think a lot of people feel like this too.

  13. Michaela (aka Mama Michie) says:

    I have loved every part of your story so far, but this one has seemed to hit home with me. I've tried monetizing my blog, but it hasn't amounted to anything yet and my husband said something similar to me. Blogging very easily becomes very time consuming and his mentioning it got me to open my eyes too. Since then I set rules for myself too, but I would love to get more serious about it again and grow.
    I really look forward to reading the rest of your story!

  14. everyday muses says:

    Interesting series…thanks for being so open and honest. I'm a new blogger too so it is helpful for me to hear from those who have gone down the road I'm headed. I don't have a lot of time and it looks like time is a crucial component of getting one's blog up and running…sigh, one day, one day.

  15. KatrinkaJane says:

    What did you "do" with Isaac and Kayla during that work time? That's my struggle – I don't want to get an outside babysitter or daycare. That's why I became a WAHM! :/

  16. A Thrifted Market says:

    Wow that is an amazing story! Way to go!! I am on the new journey of blogging myself and love it! I have kids that are a little bit older so time is not a problem for me but getting my name out there is. Thanks for the inspiration!

  17. ashley @ pure + lovely says:

    thanks for sharing. It's good to know I haven't been the only one out there-it's funny how we all have our a-ha moments and I've loved reading yours! ;)

  18. Susan @ myhomeroad.blogspot.com says:

    Wow! The part about your husband and family thinking you spend too much time online! Holy Cow I think you've been peeking in my windows! I love to blog and I'm just starting out. I'm hoping that I can have the support of my husband that you got from yours!
    Thanks for the pep talk, it helps me!
    Susan

  19. two toads says:

    Your blog story is very inspiring. I have wanted to start a blog for some time now. But have no clue how to start one. I wanted to just do it for something to do. I am a stay at home mom of 5 1/2 years now in a town I moved to 5 1/2 years ago. Still don't really have any friends here. But hubby and kids. And one friend I have picked up along the way.. I love to sew and craft, redo furniture and such. It would give me something to do during the kids school and nap time. After reading your post I want to start even more now. Thank you. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
    Shellie

  20. all I can say is CONVICTION! This post feels like my life to a T. I am juggling trying to grow my blog, crafting and refinishing all while staying at home with my 2 babies (1yr and 3yrs). I am in that I feel like I’m growing sooo slowly, that feature only brought in 2 new followers stage which is very frustrating and I question whether it’s worth it while my kiddos are still so little. Problem is I LOVE IT too. Love the creative side, the blogging, the dreaming. That’s the whole reason I started all of it because I felt lost just being mommy…I needed ME too. And ME had been lost since the birth of my first. I just need advice to find balance putting in the time/effort to grow, watching the kiddos (until there might be some $ invloved and I can pay for daycare/ a babysitter), and creating/blogging (which is semi inconsistent because I have my kids all day)…..add in friends, church, and family commitments and whew….no time to stop! Any advice would be great!

    p.s. I’ve spent a gazillion hours trying to figure out how to economically upgrade my blog and some things I’ve figured out….others not so much! Ahh, sometimes blogging feels like a secret club I’m trying to break in to.

    • Oh Jessica I am sorry you feel that way. Every single blogger will share the same story. It is hard to be noticed in the sea of amazing talent. If it is something you love and you are good at it the cream always rises to the top though. I would just talk to your family (hubby) and realistically put together a work week for yourself and do what you can in those hours. If you don’t get it done you don’t post. If you are going to rob anyone – rob your blog not your family. I understand about feeling lost with just being a mom. I felt the same way. My blog is a great outlet for me and I am grateful it has now become my job. Good luck…and if you are going to try and make it as a blogger you probably are going to have to put some money upfront before money comes in. A great blog layout is non negotiable. Good luck!

      • :) Sorry if that all sounded so whiney and poor me! Because I didn’t mean it like that! I love blogging and the online friendships I have found along the way. I was greatly encouraged through reading your series and seeing that we all seem to face the same troubles while blogging and appreciated your honesty about the temptation to get sucked in at the price of quality time with your family and friends. I am just trying to find a balance working smarter not harder and figuring out where to invest my time and resourses. Thanks so much for the advice! And as far as cliques…they are just a reality of real and online friendships! When you’re the new person in town you really have to put in a lot of effort and put yourself out there and still realize you may not get the reception you were hoping for. As a newbie it can be a bit discouraging…heck for anyone it can be discouraging just as it would be in real life but I wanted to point out this reality to anyone reading the comments as it has been the #1 mental hurdle to jump over while on this journey. Thanks so much for your feature blogs where you feature smaller and larger blogs alike! Features are the number one way to support and boost the confidence of any blogger! And I greatly appreciate the feature you did of my Nautical Knobs @Knock Off Decor. :)

        • Oh you didn’t sound like a whiner at all. I totally get it. We were all new kids on the block at one time and I felt the same way you did breaking into cliques. You will find your people and then it will be awesome to see each other grow.

  21. oh, wow… I recognize this so much. My response: what?! 10-2?! You must be kidding…. that is SO little time! And that’s just my problem… The gift of creativity, it only multiplies as you work on it, so I find I never have enough time. Thank you for sharing the way you find your balance, Becky.

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