My Blog Story Part 4

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I was at the Blissdom conference in February of 2010.   About halfway through the conference I felt like I  hadn’t  learned much.   I had lofty ideas about what a blog conference would be like and thought it was the next step in moving my blog forward. It was wonderful to meet others in my niche and put faces with the blogs that I love, but the earth shattering learning lessons didn’t happen for me.

However, I wanted some mind blowing principle that would throw me into the next phase of blogging. After a particularly frustrating session I finally said to myself, “I’m done, I am not leaving until I hear something brilliant.”

So I got the nerve up to go talk to Laurie from Tip Junkie.   I had long adored her and followed her blog since the very beginning. I always have considered her an entrepreneur and innovator in the crafty niche. I introduced myself and SHE KNEW WHO I WAS.   I about fainted when she said, “It is so nice to meet you,” and gave me a warm hug.   So I started telling her about where I was in blogging and how I felt like I needed to take the next step and how I was discouraged about my growth….blah, blah, whine whine.   She listened and then what she said next blew me away.

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She looked me straight into the eyes and said sweetly, “You are not growing because you are doing it all by yourself. You can’t blog alone.   You need to build a community of bloggers around yourself.   You need to find a blogger bigger than you, smaller than you and the same size as you.   Link arms with other people you trust and help each other, because each of you will bring something to the table that the other doesn’t. Being competitive in blogging will only hurt you” (paraphrasing a bit).

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I started tearing up right there.   And it hit me how prideful I was.   I found such pride in knowing I pretty much built my blog all by myself without anyone’s help.   And where had that left me?   Discouraged, tired, and overwhelmed! I was convicted to the core not just in what I needed to do next but in how utterly prideful I was in that regards.   It is weird how something like blogging God can use to chip away those things in your heart that doesn’t please Him.   I had a heart change in that moment.

Not only did it instantly change the way I viewed my blog, it changed the way I viewed my relationships.   Because of my insanely competitive spirit I wasn’t rejoicing in the successes of other.   If someone was better than me at something, or their blog grew faster, I was jealous and it made me want to try harder. I needed to rejoice in the joys and successes of others and not be envious of it.

Holy cow that didn’t happen overnight and it is still a work in progress in my heart, let-me-tell-you!

My word for 2010 became “together.”

Ok so who did I link arms with? Well that didn’t happen overnight! In typical “Beckie style” I had to have a few pity parties first.   After one of the larger pity parties I threw I got an email…

{to be continued)

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Comments

  1. Bah! Again with the cliff hangers! lol Incredibly insightful post though. I have slowly been coming to this realization myself, and one of my bloggy resolutions has been to network more with like-minded bloggers! Can't wait for the next installment of this series! :)

  2. C.R.A.F.T. says:

    So true :) I'm happy I read this post! Thank you :)

  3. Mique (as in Mickey) says:

    Laurie rocks. Love the advice she gave you. You rock. The end. ;)

  4. aaaaccckkk … who e-mailed?!?!? Who e-mailed??? It's funny cause I too have been having a pity party about the growth of my blog, so I'm dying to hear what happened next!!!

  5. Amy @ Positively Splendid says:

    Beckie, you have no idea how MUCH I am learning through your story! Thank you so much for sharing it with us!

  6. - Brittany says:

    Beckie,

    These posts have been so inspiring to me. Somedays I find myself falling into the competitive mind trap. But, I'm trying to ride above those feelings and really enjoy the sisterhood of other creatives. I am REALLY looking forward to meeting some of the other women I've been admiring and reading online.

    Thanks for putting Blissdom into perspective, because I think I was thinking it will be some big "a-ha" moment for me as well.

    I hope to someday meet you and say "hi" as well. Until then I will enjoy following your blog and posts.

    Brittany
    http://www.prettyhandygirl.com

    P.s. I feel your pain on the ganglion cyst. I had one back in college. NOT FUN! Luckily it has not come back.

  7. Brooke Douglass says:

    I just started blogging not that long ago and I love it. Sometimes I find the day half gone and I have been reading others blogs all day long! I want my blog to grow more and more and I am sad that it isnt growing like I want it to. I guess it wont happen over night and I do need to find some great people to attach with. I believe I have found a couple great ones! If you want another blogger to mentor I would love to be that one!!! YOU are awesome! Brooke
    [email protected]
    Girl Boy Girl Inspired

  8. That was awesome…but PLEASE don't leave us hanging so long until the next time!! The suspense is killing me, lol.
    I am curious about how to not blog "alone", as you said. What does that mean? I follow a LOT of other blogs and try to learn from them, but in the end my blog changes as I change. Does that make sense?
    Oh, hurry up, would ya? LOL!
    *smiles*

  9. Thank you so much for telling us your story. I am headed to Blissdom for the first time this year and I am not sure what to expect. I am fairly confident that the conversations like you described are the most valuable part of going.

    Will you be at Blissdom this year?

  10. Katie @ On the Banks of Squaw Creek says:

    This is such a great story! And I love how you keep us hanging on like this. :)

  11. Amanda @ Serenity Now says:

    Once again, the master of the cliffhanger. You're going to make me have some sort of anxiety attack. ;) Laurie gives excellent advice, and I think she has it down. Being competitive is such a downer…and I am SO guilty of it. ;) I love that your word was "together." Things seem to just shine when bloggers link arms and work together!

  12. Patty Ann says:

    How cool is that! Love the fact that you had to learn you can't do it all alone. Actually, none of us can, sometimes we just don't know it. Love the story, love the cliffhangers, and love your blog!! My word this year is "Release". I just need to learn to let things go.

  13. Annie Wilcox Designs says:

    You gave me this advice when we talked and I haven't forgotten it. Still working on building my blog but I have found a couple of bloggers that I have shared myself with. Love hearing your story.

  14. Julie {Angry Julie Monday} says:

    It takes a village, and that Laurie Turk is a smart woman!!!

  15. ——>Katie Bolinger says:

    I really appreciate your willingness to tell your life stories. And this series on the blog is so inspiring.
    When you said, going it alone left you discouraged, tired, and overwhelmed I could totally relate. I just doubled my followers in a day (so you know I didn't have that many to begin with) but the next day I was tired and almost depressed because I didn't have someone who understood what that meant to share it with.
    Looking forward to the next installment of your story and finding a blogger or two to work with. Thanks

  16. ——>Katie Bolinger says:

    I really appreciate your willingness to tell your life stories. And this series on the blog is so inspiring.
    When you said, going it alone left you discouraged, tired, and overwhelmed I could totally relate. I just doubled my followers in a day (so you know I didn't have that many to begin with) but the next day I was tired and almost depressed because I didn't have someone who understood what that meant to share it with.
    Looking forward to the next installment of your story and finding a blogger or two to work with. Thanks

  17. ——>Katie Bolinger says:

    I really appreciate your willingness to tell your life stories. And this series on the blog is so inspiring.
    When you said, going it alone left you discouraged, tired, and overwhelmed I could totally relate. I just doubled my followers in a day (so you know I didn't have that many to begin with) but the next day I was tired and almost depressed because I didn't have someone who understood what that meant to share it with.
    Looking forward to the next installment of your story and finding a blogger or two to work with. Thanks

  18. Krafty Kat says:

    I'm really new to blogging (only about 3 months) and I am just soaking all of this up! It is amazing just the power that someone else's kind words in a comment or email have and yours to them. Thanks so much for sharing this!

  19. Another cliff hanger. I'm learning so much. I can't wait to read part 5 of your story. Thanks for sharing all of this.

  20. angela porow says:

    thank you for being so transparent. I can relate to you with the pride thing – even beyond blogging.

    I'm new to blogging as a whole so your posts are truly full of wisdom.

    Thanks!

  21. OH MY GOODNESS! I had one of those prideful moments last night. I looked right at my husband and said, "I'm going to work my butt off and get the blog going so we can get this thing off the ground." I guess I need to do some looking around, step off my high horse, and see how I can build my community. Thanks again Beckie!

  22. Wow! You have over 4500 followers and you think you need more. That's amazing. I had no idea that there were bloggers who had more followers. Heck, I was happy when mine went to double digits. Isn't it funny how just a little advice from one you admire can get your spirit going. I enjoy your blog and wish you the best as you pursue your next goal.

  23. You have me on the edge of my seat and now we have to wait for part 5. LOL. I went back and read 1 and 2 as well. Thank you for sharing your story and the advice that you received from Laurie. Good to know.

  24. Beckie

    I have not been by in awhile because I have been stuck in a pile of blogging happenings…but I had some free time and came to visit and apparently this is just what I needed. I feel so many of those same things and while I love my blog…I am frustrated too. I enjoyed your perspective and it is great to hear your story.
    Holly

  25. Beckie,
    I love this post!! I also have been a Tip Junkie fan forever and was so excited to meet Laurie at a conference last year in Park City. Can I just tell you she is seriously one of the kindest gals ever?! Once I introduced myself to her she literally squealed and gave me a HUGE hug. Most people aren't so willing to do that and it says a lot about her! Her advice about "being competitive can hurt you" is so true. I had an experience with a high-profile blogger this past year and we were arguing back and forth a little bit…we decided to put our differences behind us and started to promote and work together and have become great friends!! Beckie, I think I can speak for most when I say you are one of the best bloggers out there! You're real, you're kind, and you have some serious talent!!!

  26. Laurie Turk says:

    Hey Beckie! I remember our conversation well and was actually a little worried that I had been too blunt with you. {{wink}} Of course I knew who you were {{duh – you're amazing!}} and wanted you to have the amazing friendships and blog alliance that I have.

    Girl, you have taken that advice to the next level and I couldn't be prouder of you! I'm seriously SO excited like jumping up and down excited that we get to hang together at Blissdom and CHA. Holy moly it's going to be a crazy fun 6 days. I can not wait.

    You're a complete rockstar and you deserve all your success. {{knuckle bumps!}}

    Hi Kari! It's been way to long. I need to e-mail you so we can chat. I would LOVE to collaborate soon.

  27. Jen-CraftOManiac says:

    WOW' I don't know where to begin HA!… hmmm, ha… hmmmm… I would say you are doing great thus far and you have a substantial amount of followers. However, we always want more right? I am hoping one day just to have as many followers as you have now. Its taken me almost a year Feb. 8th to reach over 1700 followers. I hope it continues….

    I wonder though in seeing and visiting Tip Junkie how she collaborates with others, since I just see her face on her blog and such. If she is working with others, how come it seems just like its Laurie's blog? Hmmm, I guess I should be emailing her or asking her this.
    Anyway, I say this because I too, like many am dieing to know how this collaborating working with others works. Is your blog still your blog? kinda thing! Anyway, this has been very fun and informational. Thanks tons and bunches. Jen

  28. Sue@Uniquely Chic says:

    You are not only creative in all the projects you do but are equally creative in writing! Love your little cliff hangers!

  29. ashley @ pure + lovely says:

    JUST so you know, each one of these is leaving me HANGING! Love this. ;)

  30. you are soooo honest! I’m gaining more respect towards you story by story and getting encouraged at the same time. I love you for that!

  31. Funny this post was written a few years ago…seems like you’re peeking in my windows (or brain). I have a bit of a competitive streak in me and it’s difficult to not compare myself with others. Pity parties suck; thanks for letting me know I’m not alone!

    ~Heather

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