I interrupt this normally upbeat and crafty blog with a dose of real life from the woman behind the crafty curtain.
Are you an extrovert or an introvert? An extrovert is someone who gets recharged and refueled by being around other people. An introvert is someone who is recharged and refueled by being by themselves. I am an extrovert. I generally enjoy being around people. I can be with people all day and not have my fill. I live for parties, social gatherings, game nights, people…people…people.
However, the above sentence sounds like death to my husband.
I think December is an introvert’s worst nightmare. Parties, family gatherings, and immense social situations…you might have well just said lions and tigers and bears…oh my to an introvert.
My husband’s job just got intense this past month. He was handed an additional responsibility plus his other normal job duties. This will be short-lived and there is light at the end of the tunnel. But right now it is just difficult to manage it all. On top of that he has been on and off sick for three weeks. Plus he just squeaked past an introvert’s worst month of the year. To say the least his tank needs refueling.
How does this play out in our marriage? Not good. It is just tough. I feel like I have to pick up the slack and then I build up resentment. Then I feel bad for being bitter because after all it isn’t something he can change…he is an introvert who is sucking wind after December. He comes home exhausted and then just wants to veg. But we have two ankle biters at home to care for (plus a needy wife 😉 And so every January we begin this cycle. In a couple of weeks it generally gets better.
Because I believe opposites attract I am sure many of you can relate. What do you do to combat this? How do you make sure an extrovert’s social needs are met while giving the introvert the time and space to rejuvenate? I would love any tidbit or piece of advice.